Judge Not Lest Ye Be Judged

"I can go 99% of the way and save that 1% for marriage"

He was advocating his life, which he seemed to have no regrets about. After all he was soon to have some fun with upwards of 4 girls in the same evening.

"I'll get married when I'm 40. I can wait. And have a LOT of fun along the way."

He was raised LDS, though I don't know how he does, or ever did, feel about the church or it's teachings. I had a hard time believing he actually believed them now. His dating life was highly sexual, including most things short of intercourse. Even this didn't bother me, as it is just "the way it is" out there in the world. Actually, tame for most universities in America given the "hookup culture" which has arisen. So what was it that bothered me? Why was I so peeved?

"Only a few of the girls I've been with have I not been their first going that far"

He wasn't picking up sluts and skanks, those who went that way because of a choice. He took girls who had never ventured into that territory before, and slowly took them past boundaries they had previously adhered to.

"I don't go there unless it's a girl I'm interested in. I just have these two week relationships."

He was using them. He had no intention of forming committing relationships. He dated them long enough for them to begin to trust him, open up, and be led into uncharted territory. Then left them.

"Any girl I've dated would come back to me, I'm just not interested"

That's because they formed an emotional bond and he was looking to get physical pleasure.

He spoke of spending time completely naked with girls, as if it was commonplace.

He spoke of the girls that went to BYU that had fallen into his trap, then he mocked the chastity code.

And he said all of this as if he was moral for doing it.

"I get so mad when guys don't respect girls"

Really.

He then related a story of a fight he got into because some guys were disrespecting girls. Okay, I do have to give him credit. These guys had zero respect and treated the girls only like objects. But in my judgment, he was doing the same on a lesser scale.

Being charming, letting the girl warm up to you. Not pushing too hard, but still pushing, for the physical part of the relationship to take shape.

"I didn't do anything she didn't want to"

To ANYONE who ever thinks this, I have this to say: You didn't respect her enough to prevent her from crossing the line. You didn't respect her enough to stay back from the line as far as you could. You didn't respect her enough to know that if you don't stop now, things will go too far. In fact, you started dating her with full intention to break her boundaries and drop her when you're done. You hypocrite. I should fight you for not respecting women.

The very thought of someone like him out there using my future wife like that makes me furious. It is immoral. It is disrespectful. You are wrong for doing it.

I am ready to be judged.